Most of us happen to be linguistic experts, possibly because of our educational system and the widespread pressing need for extensive expression. Talking seems so much more easier than action . Crafting out an amazing, intellectually stimulating and complex plan and talking about it with excitement seems to be so much more easier than taking that first simplest micro-tiny step towards the goal.

Outside the conversations,meetings and plannings driven by a strong will to act and follow through immediately,talking about a bright future seems like a drug that is used for a sense of comfort, to develop a quick sense of progress, to feel important and pleasure for the moment, without the desire to do our bit to act on it and follow through till the end. And a great many of us, being linguistic experts capitalize on that and more often than not, abuse the use of our verbal capacity.  It may not be wrong to look at it like a widespread “not so healthy” psychological condition and being okay with it just because it is widespread could be nothing more than an excuse (possibly because of the underlying fear of withdrawal from the immediate pleasure it provides and the comfort of being ignorant of the long term pain that can follow and lastly, the fact that, THERE ARE SO MANY OF THEM LIKE ME).

Majority of us are and have been part of soundly grounded, medium to large scale systems (corporations, institutions,firms etc). These systems, over time grows in size and moves towards abundance in terms of capital, resource, infrastructure, work etc that  makes thorough micromanagement increasingly difficult and hence makes room for the dilution of work ethics, commitment, drive and foundational principles that were once indispensable to the establishment and progress of the system in the beginning. This allows for the existence of a large pool of diluted and mediocre achievers and a good percentage of people end up with traces of “BIG TALK ,LOUSY ACTION” syndrome within them. At a deeper level, addiction to this behavior beyond a certain degree could be a mean to escape from the reality where in the person might be finding it difficult to exercise control over his/her life and manifest things as desired over a significant period of time,and hence it becomes increasingly difficult to maintain the sense of self worth that we all so deeply long for.

So whats the easy way out?

Distort the reality by taking the shortcut. Take the “QUICK PILL”:  convincingly talk,plan,conduct meetings for a possible bright future and experience a quick adrenaline rush for the moment and use that to build a quick sense of self worth, and then let it get dissolved into the thin air by the force of other pressing needs (not necessarily important) and even unimportant distractions and fillers of our day to day lives.

The increasing difficulty level and high failure rate in pursuits involving high self ownership (for eg. having a fulfilling and rewarding career outside of the defined systems) could be rooted in some of these fundamental issues. Possibly also explains why the percentage of entrepreneurs/solopreneurs/freelancers who end up successful on their own  is disappointingly low. It becomes really hard for someone who is used to operating in a diluted, secured and possibly abundant environment  (where there is a vague or distorted correlation between your efforts and returns ) to suddenly come out of the system and fight for survival where high levels of operation, intelligence, commitment  and alertness is not an option anymore, it’s a call to switch from vagueness to details and specifics. Suddenly, lousy actions (or the even best efforts put forth with the best intentions in a slightly wrong manner) can prove fatal, it is almost like a new born learning to walk and talk in a completely new world.

There are of course so many of us with varying degrees of this condition and a big part of it continues to go unnoticed and unchallenged because they predominantly manage to produce mediocre yet acceptable (not disastrous or harmful) results, which explains the prevalence of widespread mediocrity. All or probably most of us possess this characteristic (or possessed by) in varying degrees and rather than looking at it like a problem, it must be looked upon as a global fact and awareness followed by an action plan to get rid of the traces within us can really help us and others around us to live happier and more fulfilling lives and most importantly  set us on the path to building true and lasting self worth and confidence.

Presence of this behavior could vary from a minuscule degree (action upon almost all of the things we speak) to an extreme degree (all talk no action).  The degree of possession usually determines whether the person encounters more of the pain of discipline (that weights grams) or the pain of regret (that weighs tons). The talker who tries to avoid the little pain of discipline that is required to act in the right manner might eventually come across the massive pain of regret later, for himself and possibly for others involved and some of the  unforeseen, highly regretful catastrophies that we see around us are rooted in some of these initial behaviors. (Not in every case of course). One of the drives of possessing this characteristic could be the ease of execution (talk is far easier than action) and the person with the inability to anticipate or visualize the long term disappointments, setbacks and misfortunes  that is likely to follow or the one not driven enough to see the desired results in place, will unconsciously resort to the temporary comfort that comes in by talking about the bright future with a lot of excitement (take the shortcut Self Worth route), followed by lousy action or no action.

What’s the Solution?

Well,the smart way could be to go through little or acceptable levels of pain required to make ourselves aware of the traces within us around this “talk/action Asnynchronicity ” syndrome and take necessary action . Its healthy and good if we get excited about planning and talking about a brilliant future  or a great goal but what counts is whether we get excited about taking that first step, and the second? And the third?  Do we feel a sense of discomfort at the point of execution ? Do we distract ourselves in a million ways when its time to put forth the plan into action? Intellectual ability is not worth anything  without execution ability.Studies have proved that 85% of our success and happiness is dependent on Emotional Intelligence and only 15% on intellectual intelligence.  Emotional Intelligence has a strong connection with execution ability. For people who are seriously considering complete riddance from this condition, although the likelihood of an overnight success could be disappointingly low, we might decide to be a little patient and feel good about getting a little better everyday. Perfection is not the goal,improvement is.

A Japanese lady who was struggling to speak, apparently acted on every single thing she spoke (probably talking was as difficult as action, lol  :) )

Keep thinking,

Monjyoti

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